Pain, at times, can weaken our capacity to be compassionate or gentle, both towards ourselves and others. It has the potential to undermine our tolerance and hinder our ability to see beyond the temporality of experiences.
However, not everything that happens occurs solely for a reason; rather, it serves to guide us back to our paths toward greatness. When we choose to close doors leading to unhappiness and self-doubt, we demonstrate our greatness and affirm our worthiness of the gifts and blessings destined to cross our journey.
As someone witnessing a friend or somebody undergoing a breakup, let us refrain from provoking them to share their side of the story. Instead, allow them the time for self-reflection and to process the grief and other emotions that come with the separation rather than pushing for immediate sharing of experiences.
How to move on from a breakup
- There is no exact formula to move-on from a breakup, but it’s beneficial during the first few weeks, months, or even years to avoid triggers that may prompt you to reminisce about the past, such as certain songs, places, or objects, etc.
- Break habits that you shared with your ex.
- Try to view your past relationship in a positive light rather than being constantly reminded of the negative aspects. Holding onto anger can prolong the healing process.
- Consider writing in a journal to express and process your emotions, rather than bottling them up.
- Prayer can be helpful during this time. You might also seek support from a friend who can pray for and with you.
- This period is an opportunity for self-reflection. Sometimes, our identities become intertwined with our ex-partners’. Now that they’re no longer in the picture, it’s a chance to rediscover yourself—your goals and aspirations—without the distraction of someone whose objectives may have differed from yours.
- Don’t assume that because you still share telepathic connections with your ex, they are actively thinking about you or seeking reconciliation. While these connections may persist, especially after being a couple for an extended period, it’s crucial not to presume reconciliation unless the other person explicitly communicates their desire for it.
- Achieving closure in a relationship becomes impossible if you cling to the hope of reconciliation. Just let the situation be. Don’t always check your phone, seek contact, beg, or resort to threats out of desperation. These actions only prolong emotional distress, affecting your self-esteem. Life is too short to wait for an ex to return.
- Consider a closure ritual as part of the process of letting go and grieving. Simple examples of such a ritual include writing a final letter to yourself or your ex, removing photos, or ceremonially discarding reminders of the past relationship. Additionally, you might consider playing your theme song during this ritual, making it a deliberate part of the things you’re intentionally letting go of in your life.
DON’T: Engaging in witchcraft or rituals with the intent of reuniting with an ex or seeking revenge is strongly discouraged. Firstly, involvement in such practices carries negative energy and may attract misfortune into your life. Secondly, attempting rituals to reconcile with an ex interferes with their free will and disrupts the natural course of your destiny.
If prayer can move mountains, it can definitely mend your heart…
During challenging times, it is advisable to focus on prayers for protection, healing, strength, and guidance. This approach aims to alleviate pain and enhance coping mechanisms.
Remember: Psalm 34:18
It says: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.”
While you pray for healing and comfort, this serves as God’s assurance that He is indeed holding you close to His heart and providing the comfort you need.
In Isaiah 41:10
God said, ” So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, I will help you; I will uphold you with my righteous hand.”
You have the most Faithful Love from God.